“Why The Birds Sing To Me”

Posted on May 14, 2013 by Kamal Kaur

 

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Aga Khan Academy proudly presents

“Why The Birds Sing To Me”

A Musical Drama

  • Written by Katherine Liao and Jeffrey Weeks Harrison
  • Music and Lyrics composed by Jeffrey Weeks Harrison
  • Mark Brennan: Director
  •     Fred Ludenyi:Visual Arts Director

Music Director: Jeffrey Weeks Harrison

 

SYNOPSIS 

 

Set during wartime northern Uganda, Why The Birds Sings To Me is a musical drama, depicting the story of the children who were abducted and returned to their communities in northern Uganda during the 20 years of its course.  The drama weaves tragedy, love, betrayal, hope, redemption, and healing in a lively, magical and soulful performance by talented students of the Aga Khan Academy.  An exciting and innovative fusion of the Broadway musical and African oral storytelling, this performance features dance, song and metaphor.  The moving story of these children brings to us an array of universal lessons. Indeed the story reveals a deep need for healing and reconciliation, for the prevention of violence against children, and the promotion of human rights.

 

Performances will be at the Oshwal Center Theater, Nairobi on May 24 and 25 at 6:30 PM.  Tickets available from the Aga Khan Academy and select outlets.

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How to put on eyeliner

Posted on May 13, 2013 by Kamal Kaur

I love to wear eyeliner and most days I think I get it right. Other days it’s like this….

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Celebrating a century of Bollywood…

Posted on May 3, 2013 by Kamal Kaur

 

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A hundred years ago, on 3rd May 1913, Dadasaheb Phalke, who is considered to be the father of Indian Cinema, released his epochal feature film Satyawadi Raja Harishchandra with no idea that they were about to unleash something so huge that the next hundred years would completely change the way we would view entertainment. Eventually it was in the 1930s with the introduction of sound in the film Alam Ara that Indian cinema took the first steps to melding itself into an essential part of the Indian identity, thus eventually evolving into what we now know as Bollywood.

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With a journey from silent, to black and white and now 3D, Indian cinema continues to do what it started off doing – to ebtertain and thrill the audiences. The French might have introduced the concept of moving images, but little did anyone know that India would become the largest film industry in the world, having withstood the test of time and the vast cultural differences over a span of a century. With time this industry expanded and film production increased through the 1920s and 1930s. Technology kept getting newer and the introduction of sound and then later on colour meant that actors not only needed commanding voices but also singing skills as music became a defining element in Indian cinema Alam Ara was India’s first sound film, while Kisan Kanya was India’s first colour film, and incidentally both were directed by the same person, Ardeshir Irani.

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The 40s

With World War 2 dominating this decade, it was clear that the film-makers were in an era bolder then the times they were living in. V. Shantaram, Bimal Roy, Mehboob Khan and Raj Kapoor made their films and mark during these years. In the interim, rapid strides were being made towards the South and Tamil, Telugu and Kannada films were all the rage, religious subjects being more dominant. The music that was produced in these years still strikes a chord with many. Music directors like Shankar Jaikishe, O P Nayyar, Madam Mohan, Naushad, S D Burman, Salil Chaudry all had their distinctive styles and each one gave the most unforgettable melodies the world has ever known coming from the Indian film industry.

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The 50s and 60s

This era was considered the Golden Age of Indian cinema. A plethora of film-makers made their mark in this era and gave us classics like Shree 420, Madhumati, Mother India, Mughal E Azam, Pyaasa, Awara and many others. Names like Guru Dutt, Bimal Roy, Mehboob Khan, K Asif, Raj Kapoor, KV Reddy, Satyajit Ray made huge waves in the industry and their names have been forever embedded in the foundations of Bollywood cinema.


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The 70s

The changing social norms and changing economies had a huge influence on the movies that were made in this era. Stories, characters, styles, content and structure changed completely giving way to what we know as Masala films. This was the era of instant attraction, the era of the Angry Young Man that shot Amitabh Bachchan to his superstardom status. It wasn’t just Big B who basked in this era’s glory. Rajesh Khanna, Dev Anand, Jitendra and Dharmendra also enjoyed back to back hits and actresses like Vijayanthimala, Nargis, Waheeda Rehman, Sharmila Tagore, Hema Mailini, Smita Patil, Rekha and Sridevi also became household names.

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The 80s

Art cinema also gained prominence and several art film directors like Shyam Benegal and Satyajit Ray, among others, made movies that gave India international fame and glory. At the same time, this era saw female directors like Aparna Sen, Vijaya Metha, Kalpana Lajmi and Meera Nair gain a lot of prominence in a rather male dominated domain. This decade was also highly remembered with Rekha in her performance in Umrao Jaan back in 1981.

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The 90s

Romance, thrillers, action and comedy all came alive in the 90s as technology also escalated the use of Dolby digital sound effects, special effects, choreography and international appeal. Stars like Shah Rukh Khan, Juhi Chawla, Anil Kapoor, Madhuri Dixit, Rajnikanth, Aamir Khan, Salman Khan, Hrithik Roshan and so many others opened doors to a new era of films with focus on aesthetic appeal. New techniques were used and it was not uknown for stars to undergo training to portray particular roles.

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And now…

The world has become a global village and Bollywood has produced an array of films that have received global recognition and accolades. Several new film-makers are coming forth with different ideas and perspectives to give a refreshing film to the audiences. Investments are being made and the overseas markets also contribute to a large chunk of Bollywood’s box office collections.

Here’s celebrating a century of the wonder of Bollywood cinema and looking forward to much more in the coming years!

 

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Just Bollywood – this week’s stories

Posted on April 28, 2013 by Kamal Kaur

SANJAY DUTT BUYS TIME:

Sanjay Dutt

Sanjay Dutt

Sanjay Dutt, who is facing a long jail term, has been given a month on humanitarian grounds to surrender himself to the Mumbai Police. He still has three and a half years to serve in jail in connection with the 1993 Mumbai blasts. The actor is in the idle of completing his hectic filming schedule because he had promised the makers of the three or four pending projects that he would not allow their projects to be shelved because of him. Sanjay is working around the clock to meet the deadlines and obligations.

Sanjay was convicted by the TDA for illegal possession of guns that were part of the consignment that were brought in to be used during the blasts in Mumbai back in 1993. Over 275 lives were lost in this deadly blast and well over 700 people were injured but he was set free. With just three weeks to complete all these obligations, it is still questionable whether Dutt will surrender himself and finish off the jail term. His family and friends are trying their very best to get him out of this but the general public outcry is that just because he is a privileged actor nothing will happen to him. Only time will tell!

 

ARBAAZ KHAN DOES HAVE A FUNNY BONE!

Arbaaz Khan

Arbaaz Khan

We’ve always seen Arbaaz Khan in rather serious roles or roles that lean towards a negative side but now Salman Khan’s brother is all set to prove he has a funny bone too as a judge in Sony TV’s Comedy Circus. At present, his other brother Sohail Khan is the judge alongside Archana Puran Singh but Arbaaz will now be replacing his brother in the upcoming next season. This is going to be the 16th season of this very popular comedy show that showcases India’s best comics doing their thing.

It is also rumoured that Arbaaz will be stepping into Sohail’s shoes on Comedy Circus as Sohail will now get busy directing his brother Salman in their upcoming home production, Mental. When asked about this, Arbaaz said:

“I was open to do something on TV. Many things came my way, but they didn’t excite me. When Sohail got busy, they (the channel bosses) wanted somebody to replace him. They have their own parameters and they felt they need me… they approached me. Sohail did it for two years, it’s a long period of time.”

 “The show gives an opportunity to let people know me and get a glimpse of me. Maybe there is some amount of seriousness attached to my personality – no nonsense type, who does grey roles.

“TV is something where you can’t escape. If you are not playing a character, then your personality will come across. How real is he? What are the things he talks about? They can form a different opinion about me post the show,” he added.

“It’s not that the whole show is alien or unknown to me. It has been going on for seven years. There have been innumerable episodes. I am aware of what the nature of the show is and this show is about having fun. Sohail wanted me to do it. He said that I should do it. He just made it easy for me to make up my mind,”

Here’s looking forward to catching up with this serious actor’s funny side!

Sony TV's award winning comedy show

Sony TV’s award winning comedy show

AAMIR KHAN MAKES IT TO THE COVER OF TIME

Aamir Khan

Aamir Khan

Aamir Khan’s TV show, Satyamev Jayate, has had a huge impact all over India and abroad too. With hard-hitting topics, which are usually met with denial or swept under the carpet and totally ignored, Aamir has made people sit up and talk notice of all the social issues affecting society. Not only social issues, the programme has also tackled many political issues.

The actor features on one of the seven special edition covers of Time which has had international icons like Barack Obama, Michelle Obama, Pope Francis, Yahoo CEO Marissa Mayer, Jay-Z, Sheryly Sandberg, Malala Yousafzai, Aung San Suu Kyi, Daniel Day-Lewis, Justin Timberlake, Kate Middleton, Jennifer Lawrence and Steven Spielberg grace the cover too.

Raising these issues has given Aamir not just the description of a film star but that of an activist too, and this is not the first time that he has featured on the cover of Time magazine. He was on it in 2012 too for breaking the Bollywood mould and tackling India’s social evil.

 

QUOTABLE QUOTE:

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Huma Qureshi on being questioned about her over-friendly relationship with Anurag Kashyap

” No, I am not dating Anurag Kashyap and I am not going to let these stories affect my relationship with him or Kalki. My parents are fond of him and I won’t stop hanging out with him or stop going to his office because of these stories. Is a married couple not allowed to be friends with a single girl? It’s strange that these stories are coming in the last two months. It’s a convenient way of bringing me down given that I am doing a number of roles. And yes, I’d like to date someone, but unfortunately I am not dating anyone at the moment.”

- Huma Qureshi 

 

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A Farewell To Maggie…

Posted on April 21, 2013 by Kamal Kaur

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The death of Baroness Margaret Thatcher was met with a lot of mixed feelings. While many mourned her, we saw a lot of media coverage on the ‘celebrations’ that rocked parts of UK, with people smashing shop windows and generally indulging in destructive behavior to celebrate her passing on.

I could only deduce one thing from this – rioters of this nature are blatantly stupid; not just in UK but the world over. You are busy smashing down a means of putting food on the table simply because you’re overjoyed at someone’s death or even protesting against what you might feel is an atrocity? Clearly, you have psychological issues if it’s easy for you to harm or damage so easily.

On the day of the funeral, the pledge to hold parties and celebrations for Thatcher’s funeral were as damp as our rainy Nairobi weather. A pathetic handful of people turned up with their soggy placards, but were drowned out by the thousands who came to pay final respects to the late former Prime Minister.

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All 32 members of the current British Cabinet were there as were 30 former members of Lady Thatcher’s Cabinets from her premiership from 1979 right up to 1990. The status of the funeral was elevated to a state funeral with the presence of the Queen and the Duke of Edinburgh. International guests included 11 serving Prime Ministers from all over the world and 17 serving Foreign Ministers, with a total of 170 countries represented.

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I remember when I studied in the UK and Margaret Thatcher was the Prime Minister then and she introduced Poll Tax. The country was in an uproar and I joined in too because as an overseas student, it was demanded that I too had to pay this dreaded tax despite not being a citizen. By joining in the uproar, I don’t mean I took to the streets like a hooligan. I was vocally upset! Things were tough back then as it were, sending one’s offspring abroad to study is not an easy task and when the burden of this poll tax was introduced I was pretty annoyed too. My parents worked really hard to send me to UK and this was tax, in my very strong opinion, was totally uncalled for.

Despite all this, I must say I did grudgingly admire her. She was a strong woman, the first female Prime Minister in Britain, outspoken, strong and didn’t care at all about the criticism that came her way. I’m not supporting what she did fully, but look at the way she did everything. She was a focused individual and knew which direction she wanted to steer the country to. She also reminded me a lot of Cilla Black, the television matchmaker!

It is unfortunate that people chose the day of her funeral to vent their suppressed anger at her. She’s gone, how will all this even begin to affect her? Also had she been alive, I’m convinced all this furore would have been like water off a duck’s back. Let’s agree that she was like the weather – she paid no attention to criticism at all.

I suppose democracy was being exercised with the right to shout at a dead body… The irony of it all eh?

Rest in peace, Margaret Thatcher.

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Just Bollywood – This week’s stories

Posted on April 19, 2013 by Kamal Kaur

 

VETERAN ACTOR PRAN AWARDED DADSAHEB PHALKE AWARD

Pran - dashing in his hey day

He may have ruled the screens with his villanious roles but Pran has always been an actor who has been adored by many. Pran began his career as a hero back in 1940 with Yamla Jat but reached stardom and got popularity when he started playing negative roles in films like Milan, Madhumati, Kashmire Ki Kali and Ziddi. He then went on to do character roles and the timeless one that is remembered by all is of Khan in Zanjeer.

Shatrughan Sinha may feel that this award came too late and isn’t enough for this veteran actor but the 93 year old Pran has just been awarded the Dadasaheb Phalke Award. Amitabh Bachchan, who has acted in Zanjeer, the film that shot Big B to superstardom after a string of 10 flops consecutively, Don, Amar Akbar Anthony and Sharabi, says that Pran is a gentleman to the core. He took to his blog site to express himself.

“A gentleman to the core, who had great respect for his colleagues, and an immense attitude to professional behaviour. Never late on the sets, despite the heavy make up that he invariably had to indulge in. Never ever interfered with the work in progress, and surprisingly there were many occasions when he never saw the films he worked in.”

“There was never any fuss about him. I never saw or heard him raise his voice towards anyone, or disagree with what he had to do in front of the camera. He came well prepared, delivered and quietly went home.”

“My joy at him getting this award is boundless. A most deserving recognition. I wish him good health and happiness always,” he wrote.

Pran

 

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JUHI CHAWLA GOES THE VILLAIN WAY:

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We all think she made her debut in Qayamat Se Qayamat Tak with her ‘girl next door’ kind of looks and role but Juhi Chawla actually made her Bollywood debut in Sultanat. QSQT was her first big hit and ever since then it has been inevitable that this lady’s demeanor is nothing less than bubbly, chirpy and happy.

Now, this star is all set to wow us with a different side to her with a negative role in Soumik Sen’s Gulab Gang.

There have been lead actresses who have showcased themselves in a villainous role but it’s always leaned towards a shade of grey. Take Sridevi for example in Ladla. Towards the end, she has a change of heart and what about Kajol’s character in Gupt with Bobby Deol? Juhi says there are no shades of grey in her role. She will be playing a villainous role out and out and we look forward to seeing this aspect of this actress.

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LATA MANGESHKAR FEELS UNNEEDED

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The film industry has come a long way and cinema along with cinema-goers tastes have changed incredibly in the past couple of decades or so. This changed is also being felt by the Nightingale of India, Lata Mangeshkar who doesn’t feel useful or needed in the film industry anymore. She knows change is inevitable though, and she isn’t blaming anyone for this at all. The industry has undergone a huge transformation from the days Lata would be crooning bhajans and romantic hits for heroines since the age of 13. She even dilly dallied with acting and says she hated every minute of that because it wasn’t something she enjoyed but it had to be done to support her family since she was the sole breadwinner from such a tender age.

Lata was at the official announcement of the Dinanath Mangeshkar Awards 2013  and said, “Cinema has changed a lot from the times when we used to work. I will not say that it’s not good, but I don’t fit into it. If I would sing in any film today, then I don’t think I will be able to sing it beautifully,”

Lata may feel outdated and unneeded but her voice still sends chills down the spine as this 83 year old songstress continues to wow everyone who hears her voice.

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RAJESH KHANNA’S LAST FILM TO BE RELEASED:

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On 18th July this year, it will be a year since Rajesh Khanna passed away and Ashok Tyagi, the filmmaker of the superstar’s last film Riyasat has finally said he is ready to release the film after a few problems and delays that were affecting his film. Originally, the film was to have been released on Rajesh’s birth anniversary on 29th December but Tyagi said the team faced a few hardships and hiccups and were not able to premiere the film then.

The film will now release on 18th July this year, the date that marks the first death anniversary of the supserstar who stole millions of hearts with his smile and style. That’s something for you to look forward to if you’re a fan of Rajesh Khanna.

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QUOTABLE QUOTE:

Preity Zinta

PREITY ZINTA:

“People like me and others would want to go into politics for no other reason but to be proud of our country. I feel ashamed when I see MPs behaving the way they do, in Parliament.”

 

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Are You A Mummy’s Boy?

Posted on April 13, 2013 by Kamal Kaur

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Let’s do a small, simple, question-answer exercise and we will be able to work out if you are a Mummy’ Boy.

  • Does your mother cook for you and hover around you doing everything for you even though you’re over 18?
  • Does your mother save you from getting yelled at by your father?
  • This is my favourite question: Does your mother hate your wife or vice versa?

Look, let’s just face it that it’s really very hard for a mother to let go of her children, especially her sons. For some unexplainable reason, there’s always this rather strong bond between mothers and their sons and it tends to get stronger with age, and more so when their son gets married.

Allow me to share what I have observed over the years and experienced myself. When a woman finds out her son is dating, whether she admits or not, deep down there will be a pang of jealousy. Yes, I’m going to call it jealousy because this gets worse when her little boy becomes man enough to want to get married and poor mummy is sitting there hating on her son’s choice just because she feels he now loves her even more.

Many women proclaim that they are brilliant mothers in law, they get on really well with their son’s girlfriend and so on, but no one’s about to come out and admit she doesn’t like her son’s choice. This phenomenon is almost as rare as hen’s teeth.

While it’s ok for your mum to love you so much, dude, you need to style up a bit, especially if you are married. Give some love and respect to your wife/ partner. Your wife looks up to you as her knight in shining armour. Respect her, love her and cherish her. You will see that as long as you give her this respect without bowing down to pressure from your interfering mother, you will have a happy life.

Respect your wife enough to let her be the woman she is and not be the woman your mother wants her to be or you moulding her to mummy you. She is not your mother but your partner and if you have mummy issues get counseling for them. Your Oedipal complex needs severe help.

I’m not saying cut ties off from your mother for the sake of your wife. No way. I’m just asking you to cut off the apron strings that unhealthily bind you to your mother. Have a healthy relationship with her; be able to tell her not to interfere in your marital life without being disrespectful. Also make sure the two women who mean the world to you understand your relationship with the other. You cannot cut off from your mother and you cannot abandon your wife. If you give enough attention and love to both parties, you will be a happy man and also never allow these two women to bring their arguments to you. They should have the sense to sit down with each other and iron out their differences.  It may be difficult but not impossible.

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Adjusting to the in-laws, as a woman

Posted on April 9, 2013 by Kamal Kaur

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Let’s just face it, when a woman gets married, she’s going to have to change her whole life to adjust to her new family. You are so mistaken if you think you are just marrying the man you love and will have this ideal life where you’ll go on cruises and never chip your nail polish slaving in the kitchen unless, of course, you are so inclined.

The real package of this consists of basically getting married to the bloke’s family too. I’m not kidding you at all. In the days gone by, most Asian families lived as joint families. It was considered a great big insult if one of the sons decided to move out the parents home with his wife and the wife was always looked upon as some sort of ogre intent on ruining the family ties. Bollywood did a great job at showing this to us as well.

It is always so easy to blame the woman for everything isn’t it? How come no one slows down to think of the changes she has to make to adjust to the new family? I get messages from Asian women who have a really hard time adjusting to their in laws because they are being mistreated and being told they’re useless.

Let’s look at what this woman has to go through – she gets married to come into a new family. She leaves her parents home to come and live with her husband’s parents instead. She leaves behind her siblings to adjust to the ones she will find in her new home. Suddenly she has a whole hoard of relatives and she is trying hard to adjust to all of them. She even changes her name so that her new family can accept her yet she is still considered an outsider.

I remember once my ex mother in law telling her sisters in law to keep hush and not say anything in front of me as I was ‘not one of them yet’ and this was almost four years after being married to her son. She laughed it off and said it was a joke but I wasn’t amused at all. What did it take for me to be eventually accepted? I think when I gave birth to my daughter after seven years of marriage is when I actually felt like she accepted me. I could be wrong but that’s exactly how I felt.

I don’t entirely blame the mother n law in this instance. Even her space is being invaded by a new person in the home. Also, here is this woman, who has spent her whole life doting on her son and suddenly sees her son loving another women more than her, she just can’t take it and she goes ballistic. So I’m assuming by the time women are ready to get their sons married off, they’re menopausal and then those hormones make them fly off the handle and give the daughter in law a hard time.

I’m laughing as I write this because I know I’m probably going to have to face the wrath of a mother in law, including my Mum who is pretty attached to my brother as well, but be kind to women who marry your sons. It’s not easy to adjust to everyone and don’t allow your past with your mother in law to seep into what could be a wonderful relationship with your daughter in law.

That is all…

 

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Why don’t you all just leave the ‘First Lady elect’ alone?

Posted on March 23, 2013 by Kamal Kaur
Margaret Kenyatta with husband, President elect, Uhuru Kenyatta.

Margaret Kenyatta with husband, President elect, Uhuru Kenyatta.

I should have just typed that out, said ‘rant over’ and moved on but I really have an itch to give my two bits worth on this. Silly cartoons about the First Lady are coming up and all of a sudden everyone’s a fashionista and decides how our First Lady should dress and behave. People have a problem with her hair (isn’t the salt and pepper look tremendously gorgeous?), they think she should dress better and whatnot. I’m wondering what they mean by ‘dress better’. I feel she’s always elegantly kitted out and carries herself really well.

Also I’d really like to know, since when is it mandatory for someone to get a weave to fit in? Most of this bitching on social media is from women who probably get laughed at for their bad fashion sense and they get a kick in 140 characters or less telling Margaret how to dress and do her hair. I’m pretty sure she has a stylist and even if she doesn’t I feel she has a good dress sense.

The thing is, everyone gave Mama Lucy a hard time over her clothing too. What is wrong with everyone? Why judge so harshly? Mama Lucy always did carry herself well and I’ve seen a black and white picture of hers from days gone by in a fabulous Jackie O type of shift dress standing by her husband’s side. Style and taste and fashion too, change over decades and some styles suit some people and others don’t.

Let’s be honest, I’ve always known my Mum to dress really well and has always had this keen sense of fashion when it came down to her salwaar kameez sets and saris too. Her dupatta (scarves) were always French chiffon or silk and she always did receive a lot of compliments. Over the years, especially in the past couple of years or so, Mum’s health dwindled and after she had a couple of strokes, her chemical imbalance after her illness unfortunately seemed to take over and she kind of let go of herself. But even in this state when she didn’t want to dress up in silks and chiffons and go out, she still dons pretty cotton suits and gets complimented for her taste.

With age, one tends to evolve with fashion. I’m not in agreement with women who are a certain stage in life trying to pull of tight, hipster skinny jeans that should ideally be seen on their daughters. But then again, it’s personal taste and not everyone can boast of having a good fashion sense!

So anyway, coming back to my point, do lay off Margaret Kenyatta and what she wears and how she does her hair. At least she’s not like Lady Gaga turning up with satellites for headdresses and raw meat for clothes. She has this quiet elegance about her and it’s way too early for any one of us to be judging her so critically.

In all her simplicity she stands out in the crowd and I love that about Margaret Kenyatta.

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Thank you for your Season, your Reason

Posted on March 19, 2013 by Kamal Kaur

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I had a friend who walked into my life for a reason and a season but clearly not a lifetime. Perhaps my perception of friendship is different. I make friends for life so when this friend, who I thought the world of, decided to stop talking to me, cut off communication on social media and all other aspects, this time I could do nothing to accept.

To me, everyone in my life is worth the fight, worth hanging on to, but how can I hang on to something that doesn’t exist? How do I fight for someone who has decided I don’t matter? This has happened many times when this friend has stopped speaking to me but I’ve always let go of the past and moved on. Isn’t life too short to hold grudges?

Slowly I have also realised life is too short to keep wondering what you’re doing wrong constantly instead of having an open communication with someone to be able to exercise your freedom of speech. Suddenly I realised I could not say what I wanted. I had to gauge moods, I had to be careful I didn’t step on toes or say something to hurt or upset. Walking on eggshells is all I ever did lately and I still continued being mindful because this person’s friendship was worth it.

Suddenly, one day, I wasn’t worth anything and I decided to stop forcing myself to make things better. When walking away and shutting others off becomes a habit, you just learn to allow such people carry on with their journey. In my mind, I feel I was harshly judged and was cut off from because I dared speak my mind. If that was how this person wanted to deal with me instead of talking it through with me without misunderstanding, then I could say no more. I allowed it to happen.

Yes it hurts but it has hurt every time this person has done this to me. I have finally realised this person was my friend for a season, a reason but not a lifetime.

Thank you for everything. I highly appreciate it all.

May your journey in life be good to you.

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